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What are your thoughts on the 100 days of rejection concept, where individuals intentionally seek rejection each day?

2/20/2024

The "100 days of rejection" concept is a fascinating exploration of human psychology and behavior. When I first learned about it, I was intrigued to delve deeper into this topic as rejection is intricately linked to numerous fundamental processes in psychology. From Maslow's hierarchy of needs to attachment theory, as well as the importance of attention rejection in shaping a healthy personality, there is much to unpack. 

Currently, I see a trend emerging in two main categories. Some individuals, intrigued by this concept, have built their blogs or even turned them into pranks. Others have used it as a means of self-exploration and reflection. However, there may also be a third category, consisting of those who have had negative experiences and may be traumatized as a result, or perhaps were already traumatized before embarking on this challenge. However, our goal is not to dwell on trauma and shortcomings. Rather, it is simply to highlight this aspect so that individuals can consider the potential outcomes when deciding on engaging in this challenge. 

Returning to those who have found success through this concept, the first category of people are those who have used the idea of the challenge to achieve personal success. They sought opportunities to step outside societal norms to express themselves and found them precisely in situations where they expected rejection but voiced their requests anyway. In successful blogs detailing how to elicit rejection, the focus shifts away from the rejection itself to the successful strategies used to elicit it. 

As for those who used the blog for self-exploration, they were able to transform their personality and experiences. They gained insights into their boundaries, the boundaries of others, and the often senseless rules that exist in our society. They were able to transcend their fears and emerge with unique competencies to navigate the world of possibilities. 

One key lesson from this concept is not to immediately retreat after facing rejection. Often, we hear "no" and promptly abandon our ideas or requests. However, by taking the time to explain the situation, provide details, and possibly change the final decision, we may be able to turn a "no" into a "yes." It's important to continue advocating for our ideas and perhaps the "no" will eventually turn into a "yes." 

Moreover, it's essential not to be afraid to try. Often, we limit ourselves because we are convinced we will face rejection. However, more often than not, we are pleasantly surprised by the positive responses we receive. Asking "why" is also crucial. Understanding the reasons behind rejection can help us find alternative paths to success or even turn a "no" into a "yes." 

Finally, it's important to remember that rejection is not a failure. Most of the time, after facing rejection, we lose nothing. If our idea is rejected, the outcome is the same as if we hadn't proposed it at all. But there's always the possibility of success. 

Have you undergone rejection therapy yourself? Hearing others' stories and pure theory alone won't make you better. Choose suitable rejection strategies from the list, brainstorm, and write your list. You can also share this article with friends and create a joint pool of ideas. Aim for at least 30 items, arrange them from simple to complex, envision your future after completing therapy, and start checking off each item one by one. Receive one or two rejections daily and become more confident with each attempt.

Vera Romanova for Alpeon
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