How to Shift Focus from External Validation to Self-Worth?

Overcoming the deep-seated desire for external validation and shifting focus toward deriving self-worth from personal actions is indeed a complex journey, especially in a society often labeled as narcissistic by psychologists and intellectuals. The urge to conform to expectations and seek approval is deeply ingrained within us and influenced by external factors. 

The first step is conducting an internal inventory of principles, values, and life goals. This involves identifying internal priorities and distinguishing them from externally imposed ones. While such introspective work may be challenging, it is crucial. Without it, our lives may merely reflect the glimmering lights of external influences, devoid of our life project. 

The next stage involves envisioning in detail what our lives would look like and how we would feel at the end if we continue to chase external approval, sacrificing our internal, personal principles. This exercise forces us to confront the potential consequences of prioritizing external validation over our unique personal values. 

Engaging in this work can be daunting. However, it provides the fuel and motivation needed for growth and self-discovery. It's better to be horrified by the potential consequences in advance, when we still have the opportunity to choose a different path, rather than realize them when it's too late to make changes.